Saturday, January 26, 2008

Clouded certainty.

The teardrop fear i have.
The invisible blanket i require.
The different side i portray.
The meek me i avoid.
Flustered, a common response
And yet, to reveal is close to futile
A scheme that i'll tightly hold on to
Till what's attained is ample.
Ample meaning to reach ease.
Hazzy = predicted span
Logic for challenge complication
Possible.
But till ample's attained
Surrender is manana.

Living a Beautiful Disaster..

And i think I already got myself Stuck.

Living each breathe with a laid-back smile
Only time will tell.
But time's gonna run out pretty soon.
Tho not twitching about wat i foresee
When Beautiful fades,
Only God can help me

Disaster.

Monday, January 07, 2008

Perfect place, Wrong Companion

I was randomly looking at Romantic Dining places online and i came across this picture.




Yes. It's Equinox @ Swissotel.
Isn't it simply enchanting?
Just looking at the picture makes me feel so illusory.
No wonder it is voted the "Most Romantic Restaurant" in Asia.

As I'm posting this, I'm actually accompanied by lounge music being performed at the Upper Concourse Area (am at the Information Counter). So you would have to excuse me if i seem to be a bit mellow k. Hee.

Ok, back to what i was saying, isn't it enchanting!
Covoyed with a private lift for the restaurant, breathtaking view of the city skyline, bird-eyes view from the huge window, soft music and the ideal lighting.
imagine if you were dining here with the one you really love?
I'm sure the night would feel like one of the most perfect moments you've had together. And it might even lead to something better. hehe



But. (sorry to ruin the moment)

What if you were spending time here with someone you are forced to marry.
And loving him/her is close to impossible.
At the same time, you are thinking about another person you truly love and miss.
But you guys just can't be together.

Pretty sucky huh.
It's like a wasted moment don't you think?

Maybe you might think that I should not waste my time thinking too much about unnecessary issues. But you can't blame me. It can get kinda scary you know if u end up marrying someone u can never have feelings for. But worse would be marrying someone whom you think is nice and all and he ends up being a wife torturer.


All these thoughts & fears filled my mind when i was watching a documentary on "National Georgraphic Channel".
Before i begin, would like to state that i am just stating what i recalled about the documentary. Apologise if i missed out or misinterpreted anything ya.
Ok, here goes.
It's was shot in Country X about the life of a Muslim lady after she was matchmaked to marry one of her villageman.
You see, they have been married for a couple of years and even has a son.
But one day, the 'oh-so-dumb' husband decides to suspect his wife of adultery.
And it is not that he had any valid evidence.It was purely based on the rumors that he heard from other people.

Care to guess what he did to his poor innocent wife? (She has been proven to be innocent btw) Without even questioning her & giving her a chance to save herself,the cruel animal

1. Cut off her tongue
2. Chopped off her nose.
3. Snipped off her tongue.

&....

4. GORGED OUT her eyes.

EVIL!!!!!

And this is not even the worst part yet.
He was not convicted for anything because he actually used religion to save himself. How Pathetic!

Apparently, in Country X, it is believed that when a man marries a lady, he has full authority over her and that he can do anything to her without any interference from the authorities. When questioned, he actually said that in Islam, if a husband feels, i repeat, FEELS that the wife has committed a crime, he is allowed to punish her in any way and she can't complain and, here's the best part.He says that this fact is stated in the Holy Book.

BULLSHIT!!!!! Coz it's NOT!

I am not an angel or anything but i am very sure that such a teaching does not exist. Yes, we are taught to be filial to our husbands but it is also stated that the man's duty as a husband is to provide and protect his wife. Not torture her!
If such a rule does exists, all the poor wives of all the psychos in the world would be dead and living a life of hell right now. I swear if i could, I would pay someone to do to torture the exact manner he did to his wife. That would teach him a lesson or two. Only reason i wouldn't resort to killing is coz I wouldn't want his kid to end up becoming an orphan.
He apparently treats his son well so ya.

Seriously, I don't believe that there are such evil people in this world. I mean, it's your own wife for crying out loud.
And thanks to him, his son is afraid to look at his wife's face ever since. If I'm not mistaken, she had to wrap up her face most of the time.
The poor dame.

Well, to cut the story short, the American reporters(i think )decided to help her and try change her life after knowing the sad and painful truth.

Wanna know wat they did?

They brought her to doctors and cosmetic surgeons and arranged for her to get a new pair of eyes, a new tongue and a new nose, all custom made.

So eventually the poor lady was able to show her face in public again without feeling ashamed.

Of course she did not look like how she used to and she couldn’t regain back her eyesight (the purpose of the artificial eyes were just to fill up the eye sockets) , but this was the first step to trying to lead a life, close to normal again. She was very touched by what had been done for her and she was ‘crying’. It was sad to see that though we were aware that she was crying, we could only hear her whimper and there was no tears.
But I was glad to hear how happy and grateful she was.

Gd for her! hehe

As for the loser husband, he is still does not have any feeling of remorse for what he has done and is just continuing to live his own life.


But justice has to be done don't u think! He can't be let scott free just like that.
It will become a practice for other men and women will end up living in fear.


Hmmmmmmm....

Oh well, that should be all for now. In any case, once i get news, I'll update u guys yup.

Toodlez!

Guide to Building Up on your Self-Confidence

In relation to the previous post, I came across an article which i felt was pretty accurate and motivating. I made some amendments and additions based on past experiences.

So, as stated in the heading, here's presenting to you 10 guidelines on HOW TO BUILD UP YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE:





1. Recognize your insecurities. What does that voice in the back of your mind tell you? What makes you ashamed of yourself? This could be anything from acne, to regrets, to emotional abuse (past or present) from a loved one or friends at school. Whatever is making you feel unworthy, ashamed, or inferior, identify it, give it a name, and write it down.

2. Talk about it with friends and loved ones.Make sure its people you can trust so that you know that they will not use it against you in the future. Wear it on your sleeve. Each day chip away at it; wear it down. There's no quick fix. Get to the root of the problem; focus on it and understand that you need to resolve each issue before you can move on.

3. Remember that no one is perfect. Even the most confident people have insecurities. At some point in any of our lives, we may feel we lack something. That is reality. Learn that life is full of bumps down the road.

4. Identify your successes. Everyone is good at something, so discover the things at which you excel, then focus on your talents. Give yourself permission to take pride in them. Give yourself credit for your successes. Inferiority is a state of mind in which you've declared yourself a victim. Do not allow yourself to be victimized.

5. Be thankful for what you have. A lot of the times, at the root of insecurity and lack of confidence is a feeling of not having enough of something, whether it's emotional validation, good luck, money, etc. By acknowledging and appreciating what you do have, you can combat the feeling of being incomplete and unsatisfied. Finding that inner peace will do wonders for your confidence.

6. Be Positive, even if you don't feel positive. Avoid self-pity, or the pity and sympathy of others. Never allow others to make you feel inferior--they can only do so if you let them. If you continue to loathe and belittle yourself, others are going to do and believe likewise. Instead, speak positively about yourself, about your future, and about your progress. Do not be afraid to project your strengths and qualities to others. By doing so, you reinforce those ideas in your mind and encourage your growth in a positive direction.

7. Look in the mirror and smile. Studies surrounding what's called the "facial feedback theory" suggest that the expressions on your face can actually encourage your brain to register certain emotions. So by looking in the mirror and smiling every day, you might feel happier with yourself and more confident in the long run.

8. Fake it. Along the same lines of smiling to make yourself feel happy, acting confident might actually make you believe it. Pretend you're a completely confident version of you; go through the motions and see how you feel.

9. Express yourself, whether it's through art, music, writing, etc. Find something you enjoy. Everyone is born with talents and strengths. You can develop and excel in yours. If it's difficult to name two or three things you have some ability in or just plain love to do, think about things others do that you would like to do too and take some lessons or join an enthusiasts club. When you're following your passion, not only will it have a therapeutic effect, but you'll feel unique and accomplished, all of which can help build your self confidence. Plus, adding a variety of interests to your life will not only make you more confident, but it will increase your chances of meeting compatible friends!

10. Stick to your principles. It might be tough, but if you don't have something you can believe in, you don't have anything. No matter what's happened in your life, you can always lay claim to the fact that from this day forward, you've followed your principles to the best of your ability.

Toodlez!

Sunday, January 06, 2008

A.D.D

It means : Persistent pattern of inattention, forgetfulness, poor impulse control and distractibility.

And i think i'm suffering from it. Not much. Just a teeny bit.

You see, years back, while i was at a clinic, i asked the doctor if there were any medications for people who always forget things and stuff cause i was sick of being so careless all the time. I eventually told him about the problem i was facing and after making comparisons to the symptoms, he mentioned that there is a possibility that i might be having slight ADD, which means Attention Deficit Disorder.

As i looked at the symptoms, I understood what he meant.
(This is referring to a couple of years back)

1. Often does not give close attention to details or makes careless mistakes in schoolwork, work, or other activities - (God knows how careless i can get.I'll miss out the most obvious mistakes)

2. Often has trouble keeping attention on tasks - (I get bored pretty fast)

3. Often does not seem to listen when spoken to directly - (If i am not interested, give me two minutes and I'll shut down)

4. Often does not follow instructions and fails to finish schoolwork, chores, or duties in the workplace (not due to oppositional behavior or failure to understand instructions) - (Works usually halfway done, even though i know what to do)

5. Often avoids, dislikes, or doesn't want to do things that take a lot of mental effort for a long period of time (such as schoolwork or homework)- (Never liked challenges and things that i feel i might fail at. Anything that makes me think too much, forget it!)

6. Often loses things needed for tasks and activities (e.g. toys, school assignments, pencils, books, or tools) - (I misplace things as often as i shower)

7. Procrastination - (That's my forte!)

8. Easy distracted - trouble focusing attention, tendency to tune out or drift away in the middle of a page or conversation, often coupled with an inability to focus at times - (Another forte. I'll even forget what i was supposed to do)

9. Often forgetful in daily activities - (Forgetting was my middle name)

10. A sense of underachievement, of not meeting one's goals (regardless of how much one has actually accomplished) - (I was never satisfied with my projects outcomes.Never could stick to one concept which always end up with me doing unnecessary excess work)

11. Difficulty getting organized - (Seen my room? It used to get cleaned up during Hari Raya only)

12. Trouble getting started - (Thinking about it becomes taxing)

13. An intolerance of boredom - (Only time I'm fine being alone for long is when I'm asleep or too tired. Too long and I'll get so restless)

14. Changing plans, enacting new schemes or career plans etc. - (There's always something else that interests me.I couldn't focus)

15. Physical or cognitive restlessness - (When I'm alone for too long)

16. A tendency towards addictive behaviour - (If i really like to do something or appreciate a certain someone I can be at it all the way)

17. Chronic problems with self-esteem - (Low confidence is something i've been facing)


It got pretty frustrating for me cause i felt really useless.
Even mummy & daddy were worried that i might have a hard time facing the real world with such a character.
From advices to being lectured to even Ginko Biloba's, I had it all.

But as i started to get into the working world, I kept reminding myself that i'm now facing the real world. I have to get back to reality, as quoted by Eminem.

To cut the story short, I started improving once i started my permanent position in Esplanade.

I am still as forgetful and careless at times but I'm working on it.
It does get very taxing at times because you forever have people pointing out your mistakes and even the most trivial matters becomes an issue. One thing I've learnt is that i need to be more confident and try not to make my mistakes become so obvious all the time cause when u start out as someone who always forgets and is perpetually careless, people naturally end up not really trusting you as they feel that they can't depend on you. It's not their fault really. Any human being would react in the same manner. At times, I would feel so vulnerable and i kept wishing that i wasn't so useless. But at the same time, I do realise that noone else can help me but myself. I will not change if i myself don't have the drive and discipline to do so. I'm grateful to some of my friends and collegues who are constantly advising me as well as recognising my effort.Even my family members gives me the support i need.Moral support does make a big difference cause at least i won't feel so alone.

Right now, I am starting to feel a bit lagging as my to-do list has started to pile up. Once i settle my "errands", I'll start to work out a routine on how to further improvise myself. It will take a while but I'm sure it will be worth it.

All the best Shahira!

Toodles!

Saturday, January 05, 2008

Companion Casting

And I've a list to choose from (In order of preference)

Feral Ones:

1. Regina septemvittata
2. Masticophis bilineatus
3. Drymobius margaritiferus

Archangelic Ones:

1. Coton de Tulear
2. Shih Tzu
3. Persian Chinchilla
4. Chicks
5. Philippines Tarsier


Fluttering Ones:

1. Butterfly
2. Parrots

Thursday, January 03, 2008

Fresh year, New pursuit.

A thought I'm finally penning down.

I've always wanted to venture in something.
Nowadays, people, even young teenagers are constantly upgrading themselves.
From taking up new courses to opening up a business & even selling fashion apparel & accessories online, they never put a stop to progressing.

They give me this drive to advance too.
And so, i thought of what i could do.

Taking up courses would be fun...but what?
That led me branching out to listing out my interests.
After all the brainstorming, stoning and day-dreaming, I actually came up with something...

And i can't waith to get started.

Wish me luck!

All about the crown.

It went from 8 inches to 2mm.
Pain and irritation made it lose it's length
Began with curls
And ended with spikes
Again, it reached its stage of locks, slowly
But that didn't last for long
Unworthy dame ruined the months of maintaining.
Regret, but left with no choice
Once ready, she went at it again.
Now, with a trusted aid.
Hoping to achieve what she has lost in time to come.
To be able to fling and run through it.
To regain the confidence of a girl.
Growing girl to be precised.
Lady.

Whether it will match, she can't wait to find out.
But wait is all she can do for now.
And wait is what she will do.
To achieve the one thing she's been dreaming of.
The crown.


In case you were wondering, i was referring to my hair.