* Do people think that help comes with a thought of expecting something in return?
* Does sincerity come with a price?
* Why does sometimes it seems as if the world IS a scary place and there will always be someone who wants to see you fall?
* These are the questions which seems to build up in her mind recently.
And a recent incident that occured added on to the rising questions she never use to ponder upon.
She was out with a friend and his family.
While they were at a handphone kiosk, the salesman accidentally dropped the handphone pouches he was holding on to. Upon realising, her friend immediately went over to help him pick it up.
That's nice, she thought.
Till he said " I thought that if i helped him pick it up he might give me something for free"
What a cheapskate?! she thought.
Her : "So not sincere ok?"
Him : "Ya what, nowadays when you help people it doesn't come for free you know? There's always a reason". And he looked at her with a cheeky sneer/smile.
Somehow, she felt insulted.
Her : "Not everyone thinks like that ok".
Him : "Ya, whatever..". Again with the exact smile plastered on his face.
You see, if it had been a stranger, she wouldn't have given two hoots about what he just said but the fact it, he has been recently asking for her help and as a friend, she did what she could. She seriously don't care about the part of helping him but more on what he just said. It seems like he thinks that she is going all out to helping him with an ulterior motive.
Now that's insulting.
Cause she doesn't know how people usually define it when they mention "to help" but in her context, it means to SINCERELY render assistance. Unless it's someone we particularly am not in favor of then it will be more of granted out of goodwill or perhaps they both get what they want, then it's ok. But still, to go all out and help a friend with u having an Ulterior Motive?
That's screwed up.
She's not saying she's an angel or a good samaritan who has a pure heart and everyone else is evil and stuff.
Just that the thought of friends helping with an ulterior motive kinda bugs her.
Of course he did nothing wrong to her but he gave her a reason to think. And feel afraid.
It starts to question friendship.
However, maybe she is just being a bit too sensitive and she can't safely assume that he thinks like that of her but seriously, even if he does, she doesn't care. Cause her purpose is to help and since it never crossed her mind to get anything out of him, why bother worrying.
And maybe, he is just being irritating,like how he always is, trying to test her.
Oh well, who cares.
Right now, she suddenly doesn't.
Cause there are phrasings which she always try to hold on to (though looking at how scary the world can be, she does need to firm up a bit)
Her philosophy/s : Live life to the fullest and not filling it with sadness or hatred and try to be sincere in whatever you do. Respect & do not ill-treat anyone cause what goes around, come around.
Toodles!
Thursday, December 27, 2007
Tuesday, October 09, 2007
Thursday, October 04, 2007
BOYZ CAN BE SO SUCKY.
Why do boys have to make girls cry all the time?
Why can't they just be sensitive to our feelings?
Why can't they just understand?..
Before they get us, they act as if we mean the world to them.
But once we decide to commit and make an effort to put our heart into the relationship, they start their nonsense.
One things for sure, they think that they are always right.
That they are smarter than us.
Sometimes, they just don't want to listen.
One word, EGO.
Yea sure, every guy has an ego but when you love someone, why should your ego be an interference?
Would you rather lose a loved one than to lose your ego?
And one more thing, they say one thing and they mean another.
Example; EMPTY PROMISES
Don't make pacts if you can't fulfill them
If you say you wanna do something, then jolly-well make an effort.
To you it might not be important, but to us, it does.
Some things Are to be taken seriously.
Guys are well-known for running away & avoiding.
So it's normal for girls to freak out when they give such attitude.
Cause avoidance always leads to something negative doesn't it?
Guys are suppose to be the stronger gender but from the way things happen, it's pretty obvious that girls are the braver ones.
When the guy is unhappy, girls will go all out to comfort.
But when the girl is unhappy, the guy will provide some comfort and then run away or give up when they can't do anything to help.
They even get frustrated when they feel that the girl is being over-sensitive.
Like Hello!? Someone is sad here!
And when the relationship is on the rocks, they are the ones who lose hope first while the girl will end up trying their best to make the relationship work.
This always ends up with the girl trying to be strong and endure as much on their own.
Guys, on the other hand, can't control their emotions and tend to flare up over the slightest thing.
And they expect the girl to always be there for them.
Yea, its true. There are good guys in the world too and these guys who hurt girls do have their share in being nice at times but can't they make an effort not to let their pride get in the way?
C-O-M-P-R-O-M-I-S-E
That's what they need to learn.
And they need to apply it the right way.
In a relationship, one has to compromise.
But no relationship should be a compromise.
So they should stop taking the easy way out and realise that when they decide to start the relationship, they have accepted a new responsibility and they should be reliable and work on it.
Not just let it be just cause they got the girl?
It's like taking up a project and not doing anything about it.
So to All the Noti Boys who have been slacking, Listen Up!Make an effort to change for the better before its too late.
Coz once the girl decides to really give up, you gonna regret it.
In this case, it's not better late than never but more like better never than late.
Why can't they just be sensitive to our feelings?
Why can't they just understand?..
Before they get us, they act as if we mean the world to them.
But once we decide to commit and make an effort to put our heart into the relationship, they start their nonsense.
One things for sure, they think that they are always right.
That they are smarter than us.
Sometimes, they just don't want to listen.
One word, EGO.
Yea sure, every guy has an ego but when you love someone, why should your ego be an interference?
Would you rather lose a loved one than to lose your ego?
And one more thing, they say one thing and they mean another.
Example; EMPTY PROMISES
Don't make pacts if you can't fulfill them
If you say you wanna do something, then jolly-well make an effort.
To you it might not be important, but to us, it does.
Some things Are to be taken seriously.
Guys are well-known for running away & avoiding.
So it's normal for girls to freak out when they give such attitude.
Cause avoidance always leads to something negative doesn't it?
Guys are suppose to be the stronger gender but from the way things happen, it's pretty obvious that girls are the braver ones.
When the guy is unhappy, girls will go all out to comfort.
But when the girl is unhappy, the guy will provide some comfort and then run away or give up when they can't do anything to help.
They even get frustrated when they feel that the girl is being over-sensitive.
Like Hello!? Someone is sad here!
And when the relationship is on the rocks, they are the ones who lose hope first while the girl will end up trying their best to make the relationship work.
This always ends up with the girl trying to be strong and endure as much on their own.
Guys, on the other hand, can't control their emotions and tend to flare up over the slightest thing.
And they expect the girl to always be there for them.
Yea, its true. There are good guys in the world too and these guys who hurt girls do have their share in being nice at times but can't they make an effort not to let their pride get in the way?
C-O-M-P-R-O-M-I-S-E
That's what they need to learn.
And they need to apply it the right way.
In a relationship, one has to compromise.
But no relationship should be a compromise.
So they should stop taking the easy way out and realise that when they decide to start the relationship, they have accepted a new responsibility and they should be reliable and work on it.
Not just let it be just cause they got the girl?
It's like taking up a project and not doing anything about it.
So to All the Noti Boys who have been slacking, Listen Up!Make an effort to change for the better before its too late.
Coz once the girl decides to really give up, you gonna regret it.
In this case, it's not better late than never but more like better never than late.
Friday, September 28, 2007
The Foe that doesn't say goodbye.
Its been more than a week now
But it still continues to haunt.
What's puzzling is why only on a single area?
Can't it balance it up so it won't be so tiring?
Question, how long more?
Will it be a permanent one?
It's affecting her work, her concentration, her life
Her system has been concentrated with antidotes
And it's presence has attracted more uninvited guests
She's willing to do what it takes to make it leave her.
Cause she wants her life back.
Go away! Go away! Go Away!
But it still continues to haunt.
What's puzzling is why only on a single area?
Can't it balance it up so it won't be so tiring?
Question, how long more?
Will it be a permanent one?
It's affecting her work, her concentration, her life
Her system has been concentrated with antidotes
And it's presence has attracted more uninvited guests
She's willing to do what it takes to make it leave her.
Cause she wants her life back.
Go away! Go away! Go Away!
Monday, September 24, 2007
Spiffed
Throbbing right brain
3am's
Warm milk
Purple-pink capsules..
N so hoping it stops soon..
Cause i'ts getting tiring.
3am's
Warm milk
Purple-pink capsules..
N so hoping it stops soon..
Cause i'ts getting tiring.
Wednesday, August 08, 2007
Thank -You Pretty One...
This is now my official bloggie!
Thanks to pretty one who patiently taught me how to go about using it.
Thank-You Pretty One!
Huggies!
Thanks to pretty one who patiently taught me how to go about using it.
Thank-You Pretty One!
Huggies!
Tuesday, August 07, 2007
Perfectly Imperfect
It's funny how books can give one inspiration & make a person realise things they never knew. Here's something i wrote about after reading the book "The Man from Perfect" n it made me realise wat i want...as in in a man. N, No. It's not the typical hot body, tanned skin, sexy, rich, hopelessly romantic, patient,cooks n cleans n qualities ( especially physical qualities ) that supposedly makes most girls go crazy for. I believe those can be regarded as bonus points if it happens to exist in the package.
What i really one is someone who is Perfectly Imperfect, whereby his imperfections seem perfect to me. Meaning that if i can live n accept his imperfections, that means he is my perfect guy.
Coz if at the start of everything, if he fits all the perfect criteria every girl wants in a man, then his imperfections won't make him perfect anymore would it?
Because, at the end of the day, nobody's perfect.
Probably, that's e reason why if two parties start off not liking each other, maybe even fighting n arguing, when they eventually accept each other, there is a high possibility that they might even end up falling for one another. Y? Because, they have seen the worst of each other ( the true colours ), n once they have been able to accept those imperfections, ( meaning seeing each other's negative points in a positive way) , they have reached that comfort level and there will be no expectations anymore as they r able to be themselves n at the same time accepted by the other party. That makes the perfect couple doesn't it?
But wat about those who start out being happy n liking each other, trying their best to impress the other party? In this case, it depends on the situation. For some, it does work out, especially if they have been close frens for a long time n i mean yrs long, n when they realise they have a thing for one another, it usually works out because being frens for years, they would have uncovered their imperfections right?
However, for those who like each other or think they like each other n do not take the time to get to know each other before jumping into a relationship, then for all u know, if they r going to fast, the relationship might not last. As they always say, a relationship that moves too fast, ends fast. Because, they think they know each other, when they actually don't.
This is so because, from the start , if u only see their perfections ( especially if it meets your criteria of your ideal soulmate) , that means that u have somehow set a certain standard n once u learn more about their imperfections, it would make your perfect soulmate imperfect because they can't maintain the expectations you had of them from the start.
N why is it difficult to maintain it?
That's because, from the start, they were not being themselves. Because they were too busy trying their best to impress the other party n living up to the other party's expectations. N due to that, it's hard for them to hit their comfort zone n be who they r beacuse of the fear of not being able to be the perfect soulmate of the other party. But at the end of the day, nobody's perfect, so when they try to be themselves and show another side of them which the other party has never seen, it sort of gives the impression that are changing , not for the better n if the other party can't accept it, that's when problems begin.
So at the end of the day, just be yourself, especially to the ones that u might have a thing for, coz if he is able to accept you for who you realli are from the beginning, then he is your forever. Wat's e point of pretending to be someone else so that you can be liked when you yourself don't feel comfortable about it which will eventualli lead to further disappointment right?
Because at the end of the day, nobody's perfect, so if you find someone who thinks that your imperfections are perfect, that means their yours to keep.
What i really one is someone who is Perfectly Imperfect, whereby his imperfections seem perfect to me. Meaning that if i can live n accept his imperfections, that means he is my perfect guy.
Coz if at the start of everything, if he fits all the perfect criteria every girl wants in a man, then his imperfections won't make him perfect anymore would it?
Because, at the end of the day, nobody's perfect.
Probably, that's e reason why if two parties start off not liking each other, maybe even fighting n arguing, when they eventually accept each other, there is a high possibility that they might even end up falling for one another. Y? Because, they have seen the worst of each other ( the true colours ), n once they have been able to accept those imperfections, ( meaning seeing each other's negative points in a positive way) , they have reached that comfort level and there will be no expectations anymore as they r able to be themselves n at the same time accepted by the other party. That makes the perfect couple doesn't it?
But wat about those who start out being happy n liking each other, trying their best to impress the other party? In this case, it depends on the situation. For some, it does work out, especially if they have been close frens for a long time n i mean yrs long, n when they realise they have a thing for one another, it usually works out because being frens for years, they would have uncovered their imperfections right?
However, for those who like each other or think they like each other n do not take the time to get to know each other before jumping into a relationship, then for all u know, if they r going to fast, the relationship might not last. As they always say, a relationship that moves too fast, ends fast. Because, they think they know each other, when they actually don't.
This is so because, from the start , if u only see their perfections ( especially if it meets your criteria of your ideal soulmate) , that means that u have somehow set a certain standard n once u learn more about their imperfections, it would make your perfect soulmate imperfect because they can't maintain the expectations you had of them from the start.
N why is it difficult to maintain it?
That's because, from the start, they were not being themselves. Because they were too busy trying their best to impress the other party n living up to the other party's expectations. N due to that, it's hard for them to hit their comfort zone n be who they r beacuse of the fear of not being able to be the perfect soulmate of the other party. But at the end of the day, nobody's perfect, so when they try to be themselves and show another side of them which the other party has never seen, it sort of gives the impression that are changing , not for the better n if the other party can't accept it, that's when problems begin.
So at the end of the day, just be yourself, especially to the ones that u might have a thing for, coz if he is able to accept you for who you realli are from the beginning, then he is your forever. Wat's e point of pretending to be someone else so that you can be liked when you yourself don't feel comfortable about it which will eventualli lead to further disappointment right?
Because at the end of the day, nobody's perfect, so if you find someone who thinks that your imperfections are perfect, that means their yours to keep.
Friday, August 03, 2007
An Unexpected Interview
I was happily sitting at info-counter, playing with my hair when i was approached by this malay couple.
They wanted information on the Amy Search show next week.
Great! A fan of Amy! I was more than happy to help.
And i thought they were just fans.
God knows how excited i was when i found out that they were Producers who were planning to get Amy to come to Singapore to perform in November!
They started interviewing me and asking me what i thought and which Malay or Indonesian bands or celebrities i would like to come to perform in Singapore.
So Fun! So Fun!
And so...the Minah in me came out..
I started naming all the classic rockers like Nash, Wings, Spoon and as for Indo grps, Once, Peterpan(Oh,My Ariel), Samson etc..
I even asked them if they could bring the collaborated 4 hot stars who did Isabella 98..hehe
They then parted and they told me that if i was coming to the concert, they would like me to join them . How sweet..!
Hoping to bump into them if i'm going...
RoCk NeVa DiEs!! hehe
Thursday, August 02, 2007
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